: a person engaged or experienced in warfare
broadly: a person engaged in some struggler or conflict

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Warrior (n.): c. 1300, from Old North French werreier (Old French guerroieor) “a warrior, solder, combatant, one who wages war,” from werreier wage war,” from werre (war).

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“He who conquers himself is the mightiest warrior.”

Confucius (551?-479? BCE), according to Chinese tradition, was a thinker, political figure, educator and founder of the Ru School of Chinese thought)

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“The truth cuts like the sharpest knife I’ve ever known.”

Tomi Adeyemi (b. 1993, Nigerian-American novelist, between known for her book, Children of Blood and Bone, the first of the Legacy of Orïsha trilogy, which won the 2018 Andre Norton Award for Young Adult Science Fiction and Fantasy and is a finalist for the 2019 Lodestar Award for Best Young Adult Book)

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“Because he believes in miracles, miracles begin to happen. Because he is sure that his thoughts can change his life, his life begins to change. Because he is certain that he will find love, love appears.” 

Paulo Coelho (b. 1947, Brazilian lyricist and novelist, best known for his masterpiece, The Alchemist; in 2014, he uploaded his personal papers online to create a virtual Paulo Coelho Foundation)

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“Let us form one body, one heart, and defend to the last warrior our country, our homes, our liberty, and the graves of our fathers.”

Tecumseh (1768-1813, Shawnee Indian chief, orator, military leader, and advocate of intertribal Indian alliance who directed Indian resistance to white rule in the Ohio River valley. In the War of 1812 he joined British forces for the capture of Detroit and the invasion of Ohio. A decisive battle against William Henry Harrison’s U.S. troops ended in Tecumseh’s defeat and death.)

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“A warrior does not give up what he loves, he finds the love in what he does” 

Dan Millman (b. 1946, American lecturer in the personal development field and author of seventeen books including Way of the Peaceful Warrior)

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“not all warriors 
wear metal armors 
carry swords.

some wear only a 

Vinati Bhola (an international published poet based in Delhi, India, and lawyer; she falls back on poetry to keep up with the monotony of everyday life)

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“If you are a warrior, decency means that you are not cheating anybody at all. You are not even about to cheat anybody. There is a sense of straightforwardness and simplicity… It is of utmost importance to realize that the warrior’s approach should be simple-minded sometimes, very simple and straightforward. That makes it very beautiful: you having nothing up your sleeve; therefore a sense of genuineness comes through. That is decency.” 

Chögyam Trungpa (1939-1987, important teacher of Tibetan Buddhist and meditation and the founder of Shambhala)

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“He who conquers himself is the mightiest warrior.”— Confucius


I didn’t always think I was courageous.  But, this quote by Confucius reminds me that being a human being on planet Earth is a courageous act of self-love and devotion.  Personally, I was especially a warrior in my late twenties when I chose to give my life and body to give birth to my first born, Nicholas.  And when I did so, life opened up in ways that I was never able to experience before.   Children have that way of waking us out of our slumber.

I woke up slowly and acquired the keys (one of which was meditation) to liberate myself from my own prisons and break the spell of victimhood.  I was able to rise above the trauma I had endured as a child.  I was the eldest of four children and born to teenager parents, who were running away from their own family traumas.  So, I had a lot of demons to face, and that wasn’t always so easy.

It’s easy to transform one’s life.  It takes time, space, and encouragement to do so.  Sometimes it takes a dramatic wake-up call.   If you don’t quite understand, listen intently to another person’s story.  Maybe, that’s why we like to hear those stories of triumph, because stories, in what ever form, are like medicine.

I didn’t talk about my childhood, especially with my children.  But, years ago, I went to see the Snow White and the Huntsman movie with my daughter Maya when she was about sixteen or seventeen.  She loved that movie, and so did I.  It’s one of the more darker versions of Snow White and her evil stepmother, played by Kristen Stewart and Charlize Theron.

At the end movie, my daughter turns to me and says with excitement, “That was you!  That was your childhood!”  Surprised, I smiled and acknowledge that it was.  Somehow, my daughter knew.

It takes a brave warrior to face one’s shadows.  It takes fearlessness not to retreat and fall back into one’s old patterns.  Familiarity, comfortability, and security can be as addictive as any drug.  Being a loving warrior is all about pushing through and fighting one battle at a time.  Once one commits to the path, one can then pass the knowledge and keys to those who are ready to free themselves.

Happy Memorial Day, sojourners!

Namaste, Tonya


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