: to desire or wish for (something)
: to need (something)
: to be without (something needed)


Source: www.merriam-webster.com


Want (v.): c. 1200, “to be lacking,” from Old Norse vantato lack, want,” earlier wanaton, from Pro-Germanic wanen, from Proto-Indo-European we-no-, from root eue-to leave, abandon, give out” (related to: vain). The meaning “desire, wish for, feel the need of” is recorded by 1706.

Source: www.etymonline.com


“Sometimes I think the difference between what we want and what we're afraid of is about the width of an eyelash.”

Jay McInerney (b. 1955, writer, whose novels include: “Bright Lights,” “Big City,” “Ransom” “The Good Life;” also co-wrote the screenplay for the television film, ‘Gia,” which started Angelia Jolie.”)

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“As soon as you stop wanting something, you get it.”

Andy Warhol (1928-1987, painter, filmmaker, the “Godfather of pop-art movement,” one of the most prolific and popular artists of his time, using avant-garde and highly commercial sensibilities)

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“In the silence of night I have often wished for just a few words of love from one man, rather than the applause of thousands of people.”

Judy Garland (1922-1969, one of the brightest, most tragic movie stars of Hollywood’s Golden Era)

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“Our labour preserves us from three great evils -- weariness, vice, and want.”

Voltaire (1694-1778, pseudonym of Francois-Marie Arouet, one of the greatest of all French writers, known as a courageous crusader of against tyranny, bigotry, and cruelty)

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“Are these things really better than the things I already have? Or am I just trained to be dissatisfied with what I have now?”

Chuck Palahniuk (b. 1962, novelist and freelance journalist; best known for writing the award-winning novel, “Fight Club,” which was later made into an acclaimed film)

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“[S]he believed that the Buddhists were right–that if you want, you will suffer; if you love, you will grieve.”

Anne Lamott (b. 1954, author of several novels and non-fiction works, best known for her self-deprecating humor and for covering such subjects as alcoholism, single motherhood, and Christianity)

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“Don’t aim for success if you want if; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.”

David Frost (1739-2013, English journalist, comedian, writer, and broadcaster; best known for interviewing Richard Nixon in the 1970s)

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“As soon as you stop wanting something, you get it.”

Andy Warhol


There have been times when I managed to stop wanting something and got it.  When I was young, I used to trip upon this spiritual practice by accident.  It happened specifically once when I was nominated as the first student trustee in college.  I wanted that appointment, kept it closed, told no one, and allowed the opportunity to flow to me, effortlessly.  And when it showed up via the student government president, I did not panic when he turned about-face and said he had enough candidates and didn’t need me.  I knew it was a lie, and knew in my heart-of-hearts the chance would come around again, which it did through my professor, who was flustered with the nominating process and the lack of female representation.

Natural abilities also flowed like water while enjoying the journey of being a student-artist while in high school.  From there, I could close my eyes and slip between the veils of Mystery, cross over to the ocean of creativity, and come back with a great work of art.

After I got out of college and was thrust into adulthood I rushed through life, bombarded with being a wife, mother, and a career woman.  Everything was expected to be a whirlwind of activity until I hit a brick wall and decided to invest my money and time towards a serious spiritual initiation.  From there I pushed to slow down and be mindful, through the vehicles of meditation, contemplation, and prayer.

A tumble and fall down the stairs also pushed me down the “rabbit hole,” or else I would not have been able to heal.

Now, that I am embarking upon a new stage in my life as well as a new business enterprise, being present, mindful, and unhurried are important keys.  It’s sometimes counter-intuitive after many years of rushing about, but somehow I had erroneously created mental patterns that equated busyness with self-worth.

I must go back to those days when I was fresh and in love with the possibilities and potentialities of my life, and unphased if I fit in or if others loved me back.   I must know and be confidence in my abilities to love and co-create, joyously.

As we let go and surrender to what is, all that we desire and need will flow through, effortlessly.  Be true to your callings, sojourners.  Don’t ever give them up!

Much Love, Tonya






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