Definitions of Focus
 : a small round shield
 : a mark to shoot at
: a goal to be achieved
: an object of ridicule or criticism
: something or someone to be affected by an action or development



Target (n.): c. 1300, “shield,” diminutive of late Old English targe, from Old French targe “light shield” (12th century), from Frankish targa “shield,” from Proto-Germanic targ, perhaps originally “edge of a shield.”  Meaning “round object to be aimed at in shooting” first recorded 1757, originally in archery, perhaps suggested by the concentric circles in both.  Target-practice is from 1801.  Target audience is by 1951; early reference is to Cold War psychological warfare.



“… attention can be moved away from an unwanted focus, primarily by focusing intently on another target.”

Daniel Kahneman (b. 1934, regarded as the world’s most influential psychologist, recipient of the 2002 Nobel Prize in Economics for his pioneering work in behavioral economics – exploring the irrational ways we make decisions about risk)

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“You achieve long-term success step by step. Try to achieve your goals one at a time, like you do target practice.”

Daniel Snyder (b. 1964, businessman and majority owner of the Washington Redskins football team and primary investor in Red Zebra Broadcasting, the home to the Redskins Radio ESPN)

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“Thrills are much more about anticipation than action. An unfired bullet is more dangerous than one that has already met its target.”

Ashwin Sanghi (b. 1969, ranks among India’s fiction-genre bestselling author, best known for “The Rozabal Line,” “Chanakya’s Chant,” “The Krishna Key,” and a New York Times bestselling crime thriller with James Patterson)

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“Growing up, I was a target. Speaking the right way, standing the right way, holding your wrist the right way. Every day was a test, and there were a thousand ways to fail, a thousand ways to betray yourself, to not live up to someone else’s standard of what was accepted, of what was normal.”

Wentworth Miller (b. 1972, Wentworth Earl Miller III, actor, model, screenwriter, and producer, best known for his TV role in “Prisonbreak”)

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“Most companies target women as end users, but few are effectively utilizing female employees when it comes to innovating for female consumers. When women are empowered in the design and innovation process, the likelihood of success in the marketplace improves by 144%!”

Indra Nooyi (b. 1955, India-born American business executive and current chairperson and CEO of Pepsico)

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“Our present time is indeed a criticizing and critical time, hovering between the wish, and the inability to believe. Our complaints are like arrows shot up into the air at no target: and with no purpose they only fall back upon our own heads and destroy ourselves.”

William Temple (1881-1944, archbishop of Canterbury who was a leader in the ecumenical movement and in the educational and labor reforms)

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“Always grow flowers, as that will make your way full of flowers. Never grow thorns, as that will make your way thorny. Never want to target someone on an arrow. You may become the target of that arrow. Never make a well in the way of someone. As you may pass by that way sometime.”

Rahman Baba (1653-1711, renowned Pashtun Sufi Dervish and poet)

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“… attention can be moved away from an unwanted focus, primarily by focusing intently on another target.”

— Daniel Kahneman


I love talking with people, especially my friends but also strangers. Living in New York City there were many opportunities to talk to people of different cultures, backgrounds and generations.  I also love listening to other people’s thoughts, stories, and sometimes answering their questions.  Generally, I talk to strangers whenever I see an opportunity, and sometimes people target me as well.  But, I tend to zero in on a person when I know there’s a question.

About three years ago, I went to visit my grandmother and my adult children around Christmas.  I also had an opportunity to meet up with my dear friend, Johnnie, who is like an adopted mother to me, someone who always looked after my family.  She was actually my real estate broker, buying and selling a property.

While we traveled on a public crosstown bus from the Metropolitan Museum I sat next to a cute little boy who must have been around 5 or 6 years of age.  He looked at me and asked if I was cold, and I smiled and said, I was.  He asked, “Why?”  And I told him that I wasn’t used to being in the cold since I now lived in Florida.  Curious, the little boy asked, “Is Florida where you get your tan from?”  His father, who was standing near turned red, but I smiled and gently told him that was born this way.  For me, it was a loving connection to an innocent and pure heart.

I may have mentioned this before, but a couple weeks ago I was walking down the road from my home on my daily two-mile walk in the morning and saw a young man in flip flops looking intently at his phone.  I said, good morning.  He looked, smiled and asked if I would like to look at a rocket launch with him.  And so we stood together and marveled as the rocket rose in the sky.

These miraculous encounters always astonish me.

I not only love talking to strangers but also enjoy having great dialogues with friends, where we get to share thoughts and exchange ideas.  Every once in a while, though, a friend or I will vent about something that is pressing on our minds.  Sometimes, it’s good to vent to get our thoughts out.  But, when it becomes a charge pattern of circular reasoning, it’s crucial to remind ourselves to target other thoughts, preferably the good events that are happening in our lives.  Otherwise, we will continue to magnify our challenges rather than appreciate all the good that exists.

Be well, sojourners, and have a Glorious weekend!

Miraculously Yours, Tonya




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