• 1 a : to yield to the power, control, or possession of another upon compulsion or demand
b: to give up completely or agree to forgo especially in favor of another
  • 2 a : to give (oneself) up into the power of another especially as a prisoner
b: to give (oneself) over to something (as an influence)



Surrender (v.): mid-15th century, Middle English “to give (something) up,” from Old French surrendregive up, deliver over” (13th c.), from surover” + rendre “give back, present, yield” (related to render).   Reflexive sense of “to give oneself up” (especially as a prisoner) is from the 1580s.




“Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.”

Gail Sheehy (b. 1937, age 17, American author of 17 books, journalist, lecturer, and founder of the Daring Project. Her book, “Passages,” was named by Library of Congress as one of the ten most influential books of our times.)

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“The greatest of the man’s power is the measure of his surrender.”

William Booth (1829-1912, British Methodist preacher who founded The Salvation Army and became its first general.)

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“God had brought me to my knees and made me acknowledge my own nothingness, and out of that knowledge I had been reborn. I was no longer the centre of my life and therefore I could see God in everything.”

Bede Griffiths (Alan Richard Griffith, 1906-1993, British-born Benedictine monk and priest, who lived in the ashrams of South India and became a noted yogi. He was known by the end of his life as Swami Dayananda.)

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“Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. the world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.”

Marianne Williamson (b. 1952, age 62, American spiritual teacher, author, and lecturer. She has published ten books, her most famous, “A Return to Love”)

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“The reason why many are still troubled, still seeking, still making little forward progress is because they haven't yet come to the end of themselves. We're still trying to give orders, and interfering with God's work within us. ”

A.W. Tozer (Aiden Wilson Tozer, 1897-1963, American Christian pastor, preacher, author, magazine editor, and spiritual mentor. He received two honorary doctorate degrees for his work.)

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“We live between the act of awakening and the act of surrender. Each morning, we awaken to the light and the invitation to a new day in the world of time; each night, we surrender to the dark to be taken to play in the world of dreams where time is no more.”

John O’Donohue (1956-2008, Irish poet, priest, and Hegelian philosopher, and an author for popularizing Celtic spirituality)

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“Always say ‘yes’ to the present moment… Surrender to what is. Say ‘yes’ to life – and see how life starts suddenly to start working for you rather than against you.”

Eckhart Tolle (b. 1948, age 67, German-born resident of Canada, best known as the author of “The Power of Now” and “A New Earth”)

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“The ego hates losing – even to God.”

Richard Rohr (b. 1943, age 72, Franciscan friar ordained to the priesthood in the Roman Catholic Church in 1970, and author of numerous books)

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In my late 30s or early 40s, I was a single mother who was working hard to provide for her two children. I was barely making it, financially, but I soldiered on.

Eventually, I became overwhelmed, especially with maintaining my home. One night, when the kids were visiting their father, I went into my son’s room. Nick, 12 years old at the time, was sleeping on a dilapidated twin bed, and desperately needed new furniture. Also, our bathroom had a great deal of water damage from the apartment above. I was at my wits end, concerned and worried that the things would get worse. I didn’t know what to do.

So, I cried from deep within my heart and asked the Great Universe for help. And before I could second-guess myself, two answers came back to me. I needed to contact my financial advisor, Patrice, who was a colleague at work, and call my neighbor, Pat, who served as the treasurer on the apartment’s cooperative board.

Although, I didn’t know exactly what to say I told them both of my situation and asked some questions. And to my astonishment, they came back with concrete solutions.

Pat told me that the cooperative was responsible for the majority of my bathroom’s renovation, mainly because the apartment upstairs was own by the board. Patrice, my financial advisor, said I was eligible for a loan. I was then able to purchase a full bedroom set with a nightstand, a desk and bookshelves for my son, and also able to supplement and upgrade the repairs of my bathroom.

Surrender and synchronicity occurred once more while changing jobs and desperately needing childcare for my daughter, Maya. Again, I asked and then knew exactly who to go to for help.

Arrosa was mother who volunteered at my daughter’s school, and who also had two daughters of her own. I didn’t even get the question fully out before Arrosa said she would pick up Maya from summer school, which were half days, and take her home with her and the girls. Arrosa was another gift from the Universe during that challenging time, and I was more than happy to compensate her for her valuable assistance.

Have you ever had to throw up your hands and say, “I surrender!” It’s scary, isn’t it? But, it isn’t about giving up. It’s about acknowledging that our lives are divinely supported in our co-creation processes.

Let us continue to be amazed!

Peace always, Tonya






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