1: a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation
2: an act of giving particular attention: Consideration
3: high or special regard: Esteem
4: Particular, Detail (i.e. in some respects)



Respect (n.): late 14th century, “relationship, relation; regard, consideration,” from Old French respect and directly from Latin respectusregard, a looking at,” literally “act of looking back (or often) at one,” noun use of past participle of respicerelook back at, regard, consider,” from re-back” + specerelook at” (related to scope). Meanings “feeling of esteem excited by actions or attributes of someone; courteous or considerate treatment due to personal worth or power” are from 1580s.



“Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”

Fyodor Dostoyevsky (1821-1881, regarded as one of the finest novelists who ever lived; his ideas shaped literary modernism, existentialism and various schools of psychology, theology, and literary criticism)

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“I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense.”

Eve Ensler (b. 1953, playwright, performer, feminist, and activist, best known for her play, “The Vagina Monologues”)

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Respect was invented to cover the empty place where love should be.”

Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910, Russian author, master of realistic fiction, and one of the world’s greatest novelists)

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“If we would build on a sure foundation in friendship, we must love our friends for their sakes rather than for our own.”

Charlotte Brontë (1816-1855, English 19th century writer and poet; the eldest of the three Brontë sisters; best known for “Jane Eyre”)

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“I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.”

Albert Einstein (1879-1955, German-born theoretical physicist, who developed the general theory of relativity, among other feats; considered the most influential physicist of the 20th century)

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“What is objectionable, what is dangerous about extremists is not that they are extreme, but that they are intolerant. The evil is not what they say about their cause, but what they say about their opponents.”

Robert Kennedy (1925-1968, U.S. Attorney General during his brother’s JFK’s administration; later served as Senator of New York from 1965 until his assassination in 1968 during his run for presidency)

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“As you grow older, you’ll see white men cheat black men every day of your life, but let me tell you something and don’t you forget it—whenever a white man does that to a black man, no matter who he is, how rich he is, or how fine a family he comes from, that white man is trash”

Harper Lee (1926-2016, best known for writing the Pulitzer Prize-winning bestseller, “To Kill a Mockingbird”)

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“If we would build on a sure foundation in friendship, we must love our friends for their sakes rather than for our own.” — Charlotte Brontë


True love, honor, and respect for a friend takes a great deal of insight and compassion.  We believe that we are selfless and love others unconditionally for who they are.  But, in fact, because of our cultural tendencies to be self-centered we have the tendency to project an idea of ourselves onto another.

We may be trying to fix or mold those we love into our image in a grandiose attempt to heal ourselves.  Often times, what we recognize in others is merely a reflection of ourselves.

It takes self-knowledge, vigilance, and brutal honesty to understand our own human nature.  And it also takes a great deal of courage to look our selves in the mirror and to call ourselves out on our bu##sh!t.

That’s why it’s particularly important to understand when we are charged up about what others do, these are valuable opportunities to drill down and be introspective about the revelations of our character flaws or attributes.

Stay true, honest, and respectful of who you are, sojourners! Never back down from your foibles or from your unique gifts. Face it all and always stay true.

Miraculously Yours, Tonya












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