1: the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress

2:  an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change



Resilience(n.): 1620s, “act of rebounding,” from Latin resiliens, present participle of resilireto rebound, recoil,” from re-back” + salireto jump, leap” (see salient (adj.)).  Compare result (v.). Meaning “elasticity” is from 1824.



“Don't worry. You're safe now. You've got nothing left to steal.”

Joan D. Vinge (born in 1948 as Joan Carol Dennison, American science fiction author, best known for her Hugo Award-winning novel, “The Snow Queen” and its sequels about a telepath named, Cat)

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“Strong people alone know how to organize their suffering so as to bear only the most necessary pain.” 

Emil Dorian (1893-1956, Romanian poet, prose writer, and physician)

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“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” 

Steve Maraboli (author of empowerment, self-help, and philosophical books)

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“‎Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity yourself. Be a hard master to yourself-and be lenient to everybody else.” 

Henry Ward Beecham (1813-1887, liberal U.S. Congregational minister whose oratorical skill and social concerns made him one of the most influential Protestant spokesman of his time)

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“The human capacity for burden is like bamboo- far more flexible than you'd ever believe at first glance.” 

Jodi Picoult (American author of 24 novels, her last 8 novels debuted #1 on the New York Times bestseller list)

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“The human capacity for burden is like bamboo- far more flexible than you’d ever believe at first glance.” 

— Jodi Picoult


It was a harrowing decision, one of the hardest choices, and one that impacted my life and the lives of my whole entire family.  I decided to end my marriage.

I was so unhappy, spiritually and emotionally, I often suffered from headaches and back spasms.  I had to change.  It was a matter of life and death, where I had to not to only fight for my own happiness, but also for the well-being of my children.  So, little-by-little, I worked with their father to dismantle our marriage.  

Divorce felt like death, a deep loss in the midst of a perfect storm.  It was an initiation, however, where I got to face my deepest fears: fear of the unknown, fear of being abandoned and alone, and fear of poverty.  I was worried about how I was going to provide for two children, especially after I was left to pay for the mortgage and all the bills.

To distract myself from these fears and an emotional breakdown, I poured myself into my work.  I also sent a memo to my director for a salary increase.  My responsibilities had tripled with little compensation.  Although, my boss was receptive and promised a response, she hadn’t gotten back to me.

One day, I received a call from a woman, who helped to change my life.  Roma wanted to know if I knew of a professional who had my specific skills as a qualitative researcher.  I did not, but offered my help as a consultant.  Shocked, she said she needed to ask her husband, who happened to my company’s president.

A few days later, my director dropped by my office to tell me that she heard about my conversation with Roma.  She went on to say that I would not be accepting the consulting position, because she knew of someone who could do the job.  Hmm.  I paused… counted to three, and said no, I would be taking the consulting position.  I also reminded her that I asked for a raise, and then reassured my boss that the project would only be performed on my time.

And guess what?  I was a consultant for six months, and also received my raise.  BOOM!  And, this all happened, because I jumped and took a leap of  faith.

As we rise through the pain and fear of our adversities, life also rises to supports our needs and help create wildest dreams.

Go boldly, luminous sojourners!

Namaste, Tonya


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