archaic : to turn into or away from a course : deflect

2: to prevent passage of and cause to change direction

3: to bend or fold back

4: to give back or exhibit as an image, likeness, or outline : mirror

5: to bring or cast as a result

6: to make manifest or apparent : show



Reflect (v.): late 14th century, “turn or bend back;” early 15th century, “to divert, to turn aside, deflect,” from Old French reflecter (14th century), from reflectere “bend back, turn back” (reflection).  Of mirrors or polished surfaces, to shine back light rays or images, early 15th century; meaning “to turn one’s thoughts back on” is from c. 1600.



“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” 

Søren Kierkegaard (Søren Aabye Kierkegaard, 1813—1855, Danish philosopher, theologian, and cultural critic who was a major influence on existentialism and Protestant theory in the 20th century)

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to reform (or pause and reflect).” 

Mark Twain (1835-1910, an adventurer and wily intellectual, who wrote the classic American novels "The Adventures of Tom Sawyer" and "Adventures of Huckleberry Finn")

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“We lie to reflect the aspirational goals that we unconsciously know we will not uphold.” 

Cortney S. Warren (clinical psychologist, researcher, speaker, educator, author; best known for writing "Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception")

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“Whatever phase of life you are in, make time to pause and reflect where you are heading to. It is a good time to insert a comma now and realign yourself to your inner self before your life ends in a full stop.” 

Roopleen (motivational counselor, speaker, and author)

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“You are placed on this earth to represent God.” 

Jim George (American award-winning author or 37 books, motivational speaker, pharmacist)

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“Some nights are made for torture, or reflection, or the savoring of loneliness.” 

Poppy Z. Brite (Billy Martin, b. 1967, known professionally as Poppy Z. Brite, an American gothic horror author and trans man and prefers that male pronouns and terms be used when referring to him)

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“The whole theory of modern education is radically unsound. Fortunately in England, at any rate, education produces no effect whatsoever. If it did, it would prove a serious danger to the upper classes, and probably lead to acts of violence in Grosvenor Square.” 

Oscar Wilde (Oscar Fingal O’Flahertie Wills Wilde, 1854—1900, Irish wit, poet, and dramatist, best known for the novel, "The Picture of Dorian Gray," "Lady Windermere’s Fan" and "The Importance of Being Earnest"; a spokesman for England's late 19th-century Aesthetic movement in England, which advocated art for art's sake; and the object of celebrated civil and criminal suits involving homosexuality and ending in his imprisonment)

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“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”

Søren Kierkegaard


Self-reflections are super important.  It gives us the abilities to drill down deep into our interior spaces where we can find our true selves, true motivations and corrective courses.  But, circling around and over-processing our past deeds can be detrimental to our wellbeing.

When I was younger, I spent a lot time worrying about my past mistakes and missteps.  Like most folks, worrying wore me down, because it buried me into a hole of self-pity and self-degradation.

I’m reading a beautiful book called, “The Book of Joy.”  It’s a conversation between His Holiness Dalai Lama and the Archbishop Desmond Tutu.  In their dialogue, Dalai Lama offers when suffering that we pivot our perspectives from thinking we are alone in our suffering to acknowledging that others suffer too.  His Holiness refers to a teaching of the Buddha, called the Sallatha Sutta, which essentially states that some of our pain comes from our “feelings of pain” and “the suffering that comes as a result of our response” to the pain:

 “When touched with a feeling of pain, the uninstructed, ordinary person sorrows, grieves, and laments, beats his breasts, becomes distraught.  So he feels two pains, physical and mental.  Just as if they were to shot a man with an arrow and, right afterward, were to shoot him with another one, so that he feels the pain of two arrows.”

When suffering occurs, it’s time to delve into our spiritual tool bags.  This may include reading, exercising, meditation, contemplation, praying, walking, journaling, talking to a friend, gardening, or simply sitting in nature.

When I am full or stuck, I must sit by a body of water.  It’s soothing and therapeutic to reflect my thoughts off of a lake, a stream, or the ocean.  The movement of the water is a powerful purifier, helping to clear my heart, mind, and body of unnecessary worry, and also providing the sacred space to problem-solve.

After reflecting, let’s continue to move forward, sojourners!

Much Love, Tonya






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