1:  to get back: regain
2:  to bring back to normal position or condition
3 (a):  to make up for; (b): to gain by legal process
archaic: reach
5:  to find or identify again
6 (a): to obtain from an ore, a waste product, or a by-product; (b):  to save from loss and restore to usefulness: reclaim



Recover (v.): c. 1300, “to regain consciousness,” from Anglo-French rekeverer, Old French recovrer “come back, return; regain health; procure, get again” (11th century), from Medieval Latin recuperate “to recover.”  Meaning “to regain health of strength” is from early 14th century; sense of “to get (anything) back” is first attested mid-14th century.




“You were born a child of light’s wonderful secret— you return to the beauty you have always been.” 

Aberjhani (b. 1957, historian, columnist, novelist, poet, and editor; best known for writing "Visions of a Skylark Dressed in Black")

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“If you desire healing,
let yourself fall ill
let yourself fall ill.” 

Rumi (1207-1273, Persian poet and Sufi master and mystic)

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“I know now that we never get over great losses; we absorb them, and they carve us into different, often kinder, creatures.” 

Gail Caldwell (b. 1951, book critic for "The Boston Globe," recipient of the Pulitzer Prize for Criticism, and author of "Let's Take the Long Way Home")

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“We can be redeemed only to the extent to which we see ourselves.” 

Martin Buber (1878-1965, born in Vienna, Israeli-Jewish author, scholar, literary translator, and political activist, whose writing ranged from Jewish mysticism to social philosophy, biblical studies, religious phenomenology, philosophical anthropology, education, politics, and art)

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“We all have scars; both inside and out. Use your experience to support those who are going down the same road of destruction you once went down. Know that your past is worth more than the pain you once carried, because it can now be used to comfort and give strength to another soul who is suffering. Cherish your trials and tribulations as gifts; embrace these opportunities to share the grace you have been given.”

Katie Maslin (founder of Sisters of Serenity and Sobriety and author of "My Fall from Grace, My Rise to Redemption)

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“We can be redeemed only to the extent to which we see ourselves.”

Martin Buber


For a time, especially in my early twenties and thirties, I tried hiding from my pain.  But, eventually I could not.  I had to hit a brick wall, and thank God, I did!  Because, I was forced to let go of the pretense and embark upon a journey to recovery.

However, I could not heal by myself.  I needed the help from therapists, life coaches, spiritual teachers, and those body healers who were compassionate, experience, and relatable.  I also needed real life experiences to circle around and those mirrors to human imperfection to reflect upon.

I am particularly grateful for my soul mates and “friend-enemies” who have taught me so much about myself;   those folks that “shook my soul,” and provided visceral experiences to my soul’s contrast.   I’m sure they weren’t aware (or maybe they are) that they incited revelations of my value and worth.

Recovering from pain, suffering and trauma is not easy, but the search for healing is a noble one.  For once we turn the corner of our suffering and acknowledge our innate wholeness, we will have the ability to evolve and ascend  into something more.

Regain hope, sojourners, and keep moving forward.  There’s Gold out there!

Much Love, Tonya



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