: a brief popular saying that give advice about how people should live or that expresses a belief that is generally thought to be true



Proverb (n.): c. 1300, in boke of Prouerbyys, the Old Testament work, from Old French proverbe (12th century) and directly from Latin proverbiuma common saying, old adage, maxim,” literally “words put forward,” from pro-forth” + verbumword” (related to: verb). Used generally from late 14th century. The Book of Proverbs in Old English was cwidboc, from cwidespeech, saying, proverb, homily,” related to cwiddianto talk, speak, say, discuss;” cwiddungspeech, saying, report.”



“When someone is counting out
gold for you, don't look at your hands,
or the gold. Look at the giver.”

Rumi (1207-1273, known in Persia as Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Balkhī and in the West simply as Rumi; descended from a long line of Islamic jurists, theologians, and mystics; Rumi lived in present-day Turkey and wrote most of his life.)

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“A peasant with gold is still a peasant”

Tom Doig (“writer. performer. producer. moron”)

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“Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle.”

Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790, diplomat, scientist, inventor, writer; best known as one of the Founding Fathers of the United States, who also drafted the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution of the United States)

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“Give a man a fire and he's warm for a day, but set fire to him and he's warm for the rest of his life.”

Terry Pratchett (1948-2015, Sir Terence David John Pratchett, English author of fantasy novels, especially comical works)

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“Always borrow money from a pessimist. He won't expect it back.”

Oscar Wilde (1854-1900, Irish author and playwright, best known for “The Picture of Dorian Gray” and “The Importance of Being Earnest”)

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“Love many, trust a few, and learn to paddle your own canoe.”

American proverb

“The virtuous man delights in this world and he delights in the next”

Gautama Buddha (563 B.C. to 483 B.C., Indian founder of Buddhism)

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“When someone is counting out

gold for you, don’t look at your hands,

or the gold. Look at the giver.” — Rumi

I love love Rumi’s poetic proverb. What an exceptional lover and mystic he was.  And thank Goodness we were gifted his words.

“Look at the giver.” Indeed!  Look at the intentions of which treasure is given.  Is the person giving from pure intentions of the heart?  Are there strings attached, or does that individual want to buy or own you?

I am one of those people who give unconditionally and am always checking to make sure my motivations are pure.  As a result, I always give people the benefit of the doubt.  If a person swindles me, well I know for the next time.  I try mostly not to be suspicious of anyone.  In my opinion, it’s a waste of energy.  I really want to discern and observe the best in a person and not so much the worse.

Every once in a while, I’ll see a glimmer of darkness in a person’s eyes and I know to stay away.  I do know how to size up people from my early adult survival training and past life in New York City.

I recall once I was on a crowded cross-town bus with my kids, sitting, lost in thought.  All of sudden, at my eye level, I see movement, a man’s hand slowly emerging from under the plastic wrapped fresh-from-the-cleaners clothes into the handbag of a woman who was talking to her friend.

At first, I tried to tell her, but she was so engrossed in her conversation she didn’t hear me.  So, I had to hit her leg and yell, “Watch your pocketbook!”

The woman jumped and the man ran off of the bus, yelling and cursing at me.  The woman thanked me and said to her friend, “Wow! That was a live one.”

It so freaked me out, especially because I had my kids with me. My son, who was about 10 years old at the time, asked me what had happened, and I could barely talk.

A young man in his early to mid-thirties who was sitting next to me, reading music, looked up at the man yelling on the outside of bus, and looked at me and said, “He’s not going to do anything,” and continued to read his music.  That young man told me with such assurance that I totally believed him and calmed down.

Oh, yeah! Cities, like New York, are such a dichotomy of angels and demons.

Look at the givers, my friends, and beware of pickpockets!

Miraculously Yours, Tonya





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