1:  to treat or operate with or as if with the hands or by mechanical means especially in a skillful manner
2 (a): to manage or utilize skillfully; (b): to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means especially to one’s own advantage
3:  to change by artful or unfair means so as to serve one’s purpose: doctor



Manipulate (v.): 1827, “to handle skillfully by hand,” a back-formation from manipulation.  Of mental influence, from 1864.  Financial sense is from 1870.  In mid-20th century, it served as a euphemism for “masturbation.”

Manipulation (n.): c. 1730, a method of digging ore, from French manipulation, from manipule “handful” (a pharmacists’ measure), from Latin manipulus “handful, sheaf, bundle,” from manus “hand” (manual) + root of plere “to fill.”  Sense of “skillful handling of objects” is first recorded 1826; extended 1828 to “handling of persons” as well as objects.



“In a dependent relationship, the protégé can always control the protector by threatening to collapse.” 

Barbara W. Tuchman (1912--1989, two-time Pulitzer winning historian and author, best known for writing, "Guns of August," ''Stilwell and the American Experience in China, 1911-45.'' and "The March of Folly: From Troy to Vietnam")

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“We live in a world where unfortunately the distinction between true and false appears to become increasingly blurred by manipulation of facts, by exploitation of uncritical minds, and by the pollution of the language.” 

Arne Tiselius (1902-1971, Swedish biochemist who won The Nobel Prize in Chemistry in 1948)

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“Almost all people are hypnotics. The proper authority saw to it that the proper belief should be induced, and the people believed properly.” 

Charles Fort (1874-1832, Dutch-American writer and researcher, who specialized in the scholarship of strange experiences and anomalous phenomena)

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“So, in the interests of survival, they trained themselves to be agreeing machines instead of thinking machines. All their minds had to do was to discover what other people were thinking, and then they thought that, too.” 

Kurt Vonnegut (1922-2007, American author of 14 novels, best known for writing "Cats Cradle," "Slaughterhouse-Five," and "Breakfast of Champions")

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“We can be powerful political groups that promise more wealth and lower taxes. Those with power can use clever, psychological tricks and play upon our weaknesses and brokenness in order to attract us to their way of thinking. We can be manipulated into illusion.” 

Jean Vanier (b. 1928, philosopher, Catholic social innovator, teacher of the wisdom of tenderness, the founder of L'Arche, and the recipient of the 2015 Templeton Prize; his books include: "Befriending the Stranger," "The Story of L’Arche,"  "Signs of the Times," and "Finding Peace")

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“In a dependent relationship, the protégé can always control the protector by threatening to collapse.”

Barbara W. Tuchman


A mirror is being held up so the world can more fully understand the manipulator archetype.  This insidious model has been around for a long time.  But, we didn’t really have the stomach to examine it before.  Well, whether we are ready or not, its characteristics is being more fully uncloaked.

Manipulation has many personalities, multiple agendas, and creative methods on how it feeds on the energies of the others.   It’s very much like a vampire, but different in that we are unaware we’ve been bitten until the sun comes up, and we’ve been jolted awake.   Maybe, that’s the gift, the silver-lining, of the manipulator archetype.  Like so many other contrasting energies, maybe it’s meant to cure us of our blindness, to make us stronger and wiser.

Most of us don’t like to admit we’ve been fooled.   If we are honest, we will confess that most of us are vulnerable and susceptible to being manipulated, from time-to-time.   Because we have our moments of weakness where we can become physically ill, have a crisis of faith, or be seduced to another person’s unforeseen agenda.

That’s why inner work, contemplation, meditation, and prayer are so important.  These spiritual disciplines help us to face who and what we are, to tell our truth, and to understand the nature of those things that tempt us.  Internal work is self-love and offers us the space and time to see how we play ourselves, and how we too can use manipulation, unknowingly.

Let us keep drilling deep, sojourners, not only in pointing the finger at others, but also in discerning the shadows in ourselves.

Compassionately Yours, Tonya








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