1: to handle or direct with a degree of skill
2: to work upon or try to alter for a purpose
3: to succeed in accomplishing: contrive
4: to direct the professional career of



Manage (v.): 1560s, probably from Italian maneggiareto handle,” especially “to control a horse,” ultimately from Latin noun manushand” (related to: manual). Influenced by French manégehorsemanship” (earliest English sense was of handling horses), which also was from Italian. Extended to other objects or business from 1570s. Slang sense “get by” first recorded 1650s.



“If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, when no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.”

Daniel Goleman (b. 1946 in California, psychologist, science journalist, and author of the New York Times bestseller, “Emotional Intelligence”)

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“We manage the fear, I manage the fear, but it certainly takes its toll, the strain does.”

Christiane Amanpour (b. 1958, British-Iranian journalist, chief international correspondent and television anchor)

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“Happiness is good management of expectations and good management means making order and assembling the contingent elements of the "do's'" and the "don'ts", the "maybe yes'" and the "maybe not's". When we really want to live in agreement with ourselves and find peace with the surrounding world, good management is liberating.”

Erik Pevernagie (Belgium painter and artist)

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“If you asked me if I wanted more joyful experiences in my life, I wouldn’t be at all sure I did, exactly because it proves such a difficult emotion to manage.”

Zadie Smith (b. 1975, Briton, Jamaican, mother, writer, female; novelist, essayist, and short story writer)

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“In most cases being a good boss means hiring talented people and then getting out of their way.”

Tina Fey (b. 1970, actress, comedian, writer, and producer)

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“You can change only what people know, not what they do.”

Scott Adams (b. 1957, creator of the Dilber comic strip and author of several books of satire, such as “God’s Debris: A thought Experiment”)

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“Delegating your accountabilities is abdication.”

Michael E. Gerber (b. 1936, American non-fiction author and founder of Michael E. Gerber Companies, a business skills training company based in Carlsbad, California)

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“You can change only what people know, not what they do.”

Scott Adams


A wise business woman once told me that managing a small team of people was much more challenging than managing a big one.  I knew she was right, because at the time I was managing a small team while being unsupported by my direct supervisor.  Although I communicated a great deal and lead from the heart, in the end I only succeeded in producing excellent products, and failed in being able to control how my staff responded to me as a leader.

Managing a professional team is a lot like maintaining a healthy body, mind, and spirit.  We can nurture our bodies with clean water and good food; we can work to exercise, meditate, and breathe deeply; and we can even charge our minds with new knowledge and high vibrational thoughts.  But, we will have little control of how our totalities will respond in full.

We may end up gently coercing our selves back in balance and alignment by offering consistent diets of spiritual disciplines.  And even then there may be parts of us that may rebel against our choices and put us through some large and exhausting growing pains.

Managing our lives are adventures into the unknown where we get to explore our capabilities to transform and to handle the many cycles of uncertainty.

Stay strong and continue to be prosperous, sojourners!

Faithfully Yours, Tonya











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