1 (a): one attached to another by affection or esteem; (b): acquaintance
2 (a): one that is not hostile; (b): one that is of the same nation, party, or group
3: one that favors or promotes something (as a charity)
4: a favored companion
5 capitalized: a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war – called also Quaker



Friend (n.): Old English freondone attached to another by feelings of personal regard and preference,” from Proto-Germanic *frijand-lover, friend,” from Proto-Indo-European priy-ont-, “loving,” present participle form of root pri-to love” (related to: free).

Meaning “a Quaker” (a member of the Society of Friends) is from 1670s.  Feond (“fiend,” originally “enemy“) and freond often were paired alliteratively in Old English; both are masculine agent nouns derived from present participle of verbs, but they are not directly related to one another.




“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”

Bob Marley (1945-1981, born Robert Nesta “Bob” Marley, Jamaican legend and prophet, who advocated for social change through his reggae music, singing, songwriting, and musicianship)

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“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.”

Jane Austen (1775-1817, renown English novelist known principally for six novels (“Pride & Prejudice,” Sense & Sensibility,” “Persuasion,” “Emma,” “Northanger Abbey,” and “Mansfield Park”), which have been turned into a plethora of motion pictures, television shows and modern adaptations)

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“If I had a flower for every time I thought of you...I could walk through my garden forever.”

Alfred Tennyson (1809-1892, Poet Laureate of Great Britain and Ireland, and one of the most well-loved Victorian poets)

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“Don’t walk in front of me… I may not follow
Don’t walk behind me… I may not lead
Walk beside me… just be my friend

Albert Camus (1913-1960, Algeria-born French philosopher, author, and journalist)

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“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”

Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900, German philosopher of the late 19th century (one of the first existentialist philosophers along with Soren Kierkegaard) who challenged the foundations of Christianity and traditional morality)

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“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.”

Helen Keller (1880-1968, American educator and journalist who overcame the adversity of being blind and deaf to become one of the 20th century’s leading humanitarians, as well as co-founder of ACLU.)

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Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything.”

Muhammad Ali (b. 1942, celebrated athlete, heavyweight champion boxer, Olympic gold medalist, philanthropist, and one of the greatest sporting figures of the 20th century)

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“The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them”

Thomas Merton (1915-1968, one of the most influential American Catholic authors of twentieth century; best known for his autobiography, “The Seven Storey Mountain,” which sold over one million copies; wrote over sixty other books and hundreds of poems and articles ranging from monastic spirituality to civil rights, nonviolence, and the nuclear arms race.)

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“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you.  You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”

— Bob Marley

There was a long time after my mother died when I was very reluctant to love unconditionally.  As a child, I grew in deep fear that I would be hurt when a person left or passed.  Losing my mother to kidney cancer at 10 years of age magnified my fear of abandonment.  It was a very tough time, not only for me, but for my whole entire family.

But, in my late twenties and early thirties, when I got initiated into adulthood and motherhood, I diligently and miraculously returned to Love and to a beginner’s mind and heart.  It helped also to be initiated by beautiful gifted children.

During those transformational years, I embarked upon some miraculous, mysterious, and  shape-shifting journeys and fell back in love with life and with the Light of the world.  I was then able to pierced through my own armor and the protective layers of ego, my separated false self.

It wasn’t so easy, though, to awaken and become more conscious. It felt lonely at times and it sometimes hurt when others tried to misuse my gifts for their own selfish means.  These people, unfortunately, weren’t able to see their own capacity to tap into Source Energy for themselves.

It continues to be important to work through my demons, and continue to commit to love, compassion, gratitude, and to be a living example of authenticity and purpose.

Honestly, it still takes me a bit to still sort through and discern, what people (or ideas for that matter) I should befriend.  I also should allow beloved friends to pick and fight for me.  When I am able to do so I am in awe of how many soul mates I continue to find.

My friends are now principled lightworkers of great character, those who want to participate more fully in life, and serve and fight for the betterment of others.  My dear friends mean the world to me, especially those who unconditionally accept and love me for who I am.  They teach me so much about love and always tell me the truth by loving me for who and what I am.  And who I am is, as T.D. Jakes so coined, a 10-gallon lover of Life.

Please join me in expanding our collective meanings of true friendship.

Lovingly Yours, Tonya


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