: to make firm, stable, or stationery
: to hold or direct steadily
: to set in order: adjust
: to get ready: prepare
: repair, mend; restore, cure



Fix (v.): late 14th century, “set (one’s eyes or mind) or something” (a figurative use), probably from Old French verb fixer “fixed,” from Latin fixes “fixed, fast, immovable; established, settled,” past participle adjective from figereto fix, fasten, drive, thrust in: pierce through, transfix,” also figurative, from Proto-Indo-European root dhigw- “to pierce; to fix, fasten.”

Sense of “fasten, attach” is c. 1400; that of “to make (colors, etc.) fast or permanent” is from 1660s.  The meaning “settle, assign” evolved into “adjust, arrange” then “repair.”  Sense of “tamper with” (a fight, a jury, etc.) is from 1790.  As euphemism for “castrate a pet” it dates from 1930.



"Let us not seek the Republican answer or the Democratic answer, but the right answer. Let us not seek to fix the blame for the past. Let us accept our own responsibility for the future."

John F. Kennedy (1917-1963, the 35th President of the U.S., and the youngest to serve and the youngest to die)

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“You cannot fix racism with more racism.” 

Christina Engela (sci-fi author and fantasy writer from South Africa)

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“We are all too fixed on wrecking ourselves rather than bettering ourselves.” 

Maggie Royer (poet, best known for writing "Healing Old Wounds With New Stitches")

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"Real connection and intimacy is like a meal, not a sugar fix."

Kristin Armstrong (b. 1973, professional road bicycle racer and three-time Olympic gold medalist, the winner of the women's individual time trial in 2008, 2012 and 2016)

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"Part of spiritual and emotional maturity is recognizing that it's not like you're going to try to fix yourself and become a different person. You remain the same person, but you become awakened."  

Jack Kornfield (b. 1945, author, Buddhist practitioner, and one of the key teachers who introduced Buddhist mindfulness to the West)

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“You cannot fix racism with more racism.”

Christina Engela


Our abilities to heal racism or any of our other psychologically disturbed “isms,” like sexism, classism, homophobism, etc, cannot be cured with more hate, just like hate cannot be healed with more violence.  It may sound like a bit of a cliché, but hate in all of its forms can only be stamped out with love.

Years ago, I used to work for a prestigious theater company.  It was such an interesting place to work with many professional actors, designers, writers, and directors traveling through from the television and film industries.

I also had many opportunities to meet and know colleagues from different backgrounds, especially from the gay and lesbian community.

One of my colleagues was a woman named Linda, who happened to be a single White American in her fifties.  She would, from time-to-time, say racist and homophobic offensive statements to those who worked with her.  Oddly enough, Linda was also good friends with Randy, a kind man and one of the casting directors, who was dying from AIDS.

She also accepted me as a friend and would invite me, an African American woman, and my husband, a Puerto Rican man, over to her home to listen to the music of Robert Johnson and Jimmy Hendrix.  Music was the bridge we bonded over.  It is because of Linda that I now know more of these two musical icons, which I knew very little of at the time.

Love IS the antidote to hate, but I find it cannot be initiated from group-to-group.  True and honest dialogue must be offered up from one person to the next. This is where reconciliation and healing begins.

Much Love, Tonya


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