: something (such as a river, a fence, or an imaginary line) that shows where an area ends and another area begins
: a point or limit that indicates where two things become different



Bound (n.): c. 1200, from Anglo-Latin bunda, from Old French bondelimit, boundary stone” (12th century, Modern French borne), variant of bodne, from Medieval Latin bodina, perhaps from Gaulish.

-ary: adjective and noun word-forming element, in most cases from Latin -arius, -aria, -ariumconnected with, pertaining to; the man engaged in,” from Proto-Indo-European relational adjective suffix -yo-of or belonging to.”



“Be in your own skin, as an act of self-loving.”

H. Raven Rose (screenwriter, writer, playwright, novelist, and author)

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“The most important distinction anyone can ever make in their life is between who they are as an individual and their connection with others.”

Anné Linden (founder of the New York Training Institute for Neuro Linguistic Programming that was established in 1979; creator of an entirely new approach to interpersonal and intrapersonal communication and change: The Linden Boundaries Model.)

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“We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.”

Henry Cloud (b. 1956, clinical psychologist, leadership expert, and author of the book, “The Power of the Other.”)

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“If you spend your life sparing people’s feelings and feeding their vanity, you get so you can’t distinguish what should be respected in them.”

F. Scott Fitzgerald (1896-1940, short-story writer and novelist, known for his turbulent personal life and his famous novel, “The Great Gatsby.”)

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“Evaluating the benefits and drawbacks of any relationship is your responsibility. You do not have to passively accept what is brought to you. You can choose.”

Deborah Day (certified practitioner of psychodrama, sociodrama and group psychotherapy, licensed mental health counselor, and author of the book, “Be Happy Now!”)

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“Every healthy marriage is composed of walls and windows. The windows are the aspects of your relationship that are open to the world—that is, the necessary gaps through which you interact with family and friends; the walls are the barriers of trust behind which you guard the most intimatesecrets of your marriage.”

Elizabeth Gilbert (b. 1969, author, essayist, short story writer, biographer, novelist, and memoirist; best known to “Eat Pray Love” and “Big Magic.”)

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“From an early age I didn’t buy into the value systems of working hard in a nine-to-five job. I thought creativity, friendship and loyalty and pushing the boundaries of what was acceptable was much more interesting.”

Adam Clayton (b. 1960, English-born Irish musician best known as the bass guitarist of the Irish rock band, U2)

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“Pleasure without God, without the sacred boundaries, will actually leave you emptier than before. And this is biblical truth, this is experiential truth. The loneliest people in the world are amongst the wealthiest and most famous who found no boundaries within which to live. That is a fact I’ve seen again and again.”

Ravi Zacharias (b. 1946, Indian-born Canadian-American minister, author, and founder and president of Ravi Zacharias International Ministries

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“Be in your own skin, as an act of self-loving.” — H. Raven Rose

Most of us want to evolve, transform and transmute as effortlessly and gracefully as the butterfly.

As Maya Angelou once reminded us: “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”

We tend to take a lot for granted, even what we think we know.

Instead of only two stages of metamorphosis, the butterfly actually undergoes 4 life cycles: the egg, larva, pupa, and adult.

The adult female butterfly places tiny eggs upon the plants for the hatching caterpillars to feed on. The caterpillar as a larva eats continuously until it grows 100 times its size, splitting and shedding its skins about 4 or 5 times.

When the caterpillar is full-grown and stops eating, it transitions into pupa, also known as a chrysalis.  During this stage, it’s all about protection and boundaries.   Depending on the species, the pupa can suspend under a branch, hide in leaves, bury itself underground, or sometimes be protect itself in a cocoon of silk.

According to The Academy of Natural Sciences of Drexel University: “It may look like nothing is going on but big changes are happening inside. Special cells that were present in the larva are now growing rapidly.   They will become the legs, wings, eyes and other parts of the adult butterfly. Many of the original larva cells will provide energy for these growing adult cells.”

The butterfly must allow for conscious nourishment and methodical shielding in order to soar to new heights.

Isn’t this the same for us?  Mustn’t we be intentional in transforming into our better selves.  Sometimes, our evolutionary process can be painful and exhausting.  Yes, indeed! But sometimes it can be pure delight to push to the boundaries of our own possible existence.

March on, my sisters and brothers, march on!

Miraculously Yours, Tonya




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