1: to curve out of a straight line or position
2: to apply oneself vigorously
3: incline, tend
Bend (v.): Old English bendan “to bend a bow; confine with a string, fetter,” causative of bindan “to bind,” from Proto-Germanic base band- “string, band” (source also of Old Norse benda “to join, strain, strive, bend“), from Proto-Indo-European root bhendh- “to bind” (source also of Gothic bindan, Old High German bintan, Sanskrit badhnati “binds;” Gothic bands “that which binds;” Sanskrit bandhah “a tying, bandage;” Middle Irish bainna “bracelet,” Lithuanian benders “partner;” Old Persian bandaka- ‘subject“).
Modern sense (early 14th century) is a via notion of bending a bow to string it. Cognate with band, bind, bond, and Bund.
"Blessed are the hearts that can bend; they shall never be broken."
Albert Camus (1913—1960, French novelist, essayist, and playwright, best known for such novels as L’stranger -The Stranger, La Peste - The Plague, and La Chute -The Fall and for his work in leftist causes; received the 1957 Nobel Prize for Literature)
"When you encounter difficulties and contradictions, do not try to break them, but bend them with gentleness and time
Saint Francis de Sales (1567 – 1622, Bishop of Geneva, who was honored as a saint in the Anglican and Catholic church, noted for his deep faith and his gentle approach to the religious divisions in his land resulting from the Protestant Reformation; known also for his writings on the topic of spiritual direction and spiritual formation)
"I do not make any apologies for my manner or personality. I come from a long line of very strong, black African-American women who neither bend nor bow. I haven't had very good modeling in submission."
Faye Wattleton (b. Alyce Faye Wattleton in 1943, former registered nurse, feminist activist, first African American and the youngest president ever elected to Planned Parenthood Federation of America; best known for her contributions to the family planning and reproductive health, as well as the pro-choice movement)
"Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye."
Helen Keller (1880-1968, a woman of luminous intelligence, high ambition and great accomplishment who devoted her life to helping others; during her lifetime, she was ranked near the top of "most admired" lists)
"Heart is what drives us and determines our fate. That is what I need for my characters in my books: a passionate heart. I need mavericks, dissidents, adventurers, outsiders and rebels, who ask questions, bend the rules and take risks."
Isabel Allende (American-Chilean novelist and memoirist, who writes of passionate lives, including herself; best known for writing "House of Spirits")
“Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.”
There’s definitely a difference between flexibility and bending towards the will of others, and in the long run losing one’s identity. Our culture, families, and workplaces usually encourage us to be this submissive and to sell ourselves short so we can line up and be company men and women to some made-up cause.
But, usually we have some these sporadic and sometimes wake-up calls that forces up to wake up. We also are blessed to have genuine models of wellbeing. For me, my grandmothers modeled strength, even though most to the time, as black women, they were often behind the eight ball.
The more we awaken and become more aware and conscious of who we are, within and without; the more we can bend to all that is needed. As free souls, we are prone to be pliable, malleable, and stronger in our authenticity. However, this takes being fully in the present, so we know when we should create boundaries or surrender ourselves to the possibilities that may or may not occur.
Miraculously Yours, Tonya