1:  to take by legal authority especially under a writ
2 a: to bring (oneself) into an association; b: to assign (an individual or unit in the military) temporarily
3:  to bind by personal ties (as of affection or sympathy)
4:  to make fast (as by tying or gluing)
5:  to associate especially as a property or an attribute: ascribe
6:  to include and send (a separate document or file) with an electronic message (such as an e-mail or text message)



Attach (v.): mid-14th century, “to take or seize (property or goods) by law,” a legal term, from Old French atachier (11th century), earlier estachier ‘to attach, fix, stake-up, support,” perhaps from a- “to“+ Frankish stakon “a post, stake” or a similar Germanic word.  Meaning “to fasten, affix, connect” is from c.1400.



Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ”

Simone Weil (1909 – 1943, French philosopher, mystic, and activist)

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“Mostly it is loss which teaches us about the worth of things.”

Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860, among the 19th century philosophers who contended that universe is not a rational place; often considered a pessimist he often advocated artistic, moral, and ascetic forms of awareness to overcome frustration-filled and fundamentally painful human condition)

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“Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.”

James Baldwin (1924-1987, American novelist, essayist, playwright, poet and social critic; best known for writing "Giovanni's Room," written way before the gay liberation movement)

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“[D]etachment means letting go and nonattachment means simply letting be.”

Stephen Levine (1937-2016, American poet, author, and teacher, best known for his work on death and dying, and for writing the book, "A Year to Live: How to Live This Year as If It Were Your Last")

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“I have learned that if you must leave a place that you have lived in and loved and where all your yesteryears are buried deep, leave it any way except a slow way, leave it the fastest way you can. Never turn back and never believe that an hour you remember is a better hour because it is dead. Passed years seem safe ones, vanquished ones, while the future lives in a cloud, formidable from a distance.”

Beryl Markham (1902-1986, British Kenyan-born professional pilot, horse trainer and breeder, writer, and adventurer, best known for her memoir, "West with the Night")

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“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”

Byron Katie (b. 1942, speaker, author, and founder of The Work, who teaches a method of self-inquiry; wrote the book, "Loving What Is: Four Questions that Can Save your Life")

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“If you realize that all things change, there is nothing you will try to hold on to. If you are not afraid of dying, there is nothing you cannot achieve.”

Lao Tzu or Laozi (Philosophical Daoism traces its origins to Laozi, an extraordinary thinker who flourished during the sixth century B.C.E. To some modern scholars Laozi is entirely legendary. In religious Daoism, Laozi is revered as a supreme deity.)

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“Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.”

James Baldwin

I was having a challenging time writing today’s blog.  The word, Attach, provoked something within me, especially as I was gleaning its wisdom.

I am human, and like most of us I have become attached to circumstances of our world and to its many possible outcomes.  It’s worrisome, because I don’t really know the future.  Part of me is desperate to roll the tape forward and skip all the icky parts.  It’s sometimes challenging to stay present, because I don’t know how I can become a part of the solution.   I know I should still and wait patiently for the answers, which always come.

The “irrevocable condition of home,” to feel safe and loved, is a spiritual discipline with itself.  It’s the ability to walk in faith even when one feels bombarded by the mean-spiritedness of our world.  The only path through is Love, plain and simple.  But, perhaps it’s not so simple to love, to be compassionate, and to be forgiving, not only of others, but of ourselves.  Perhaps, this is the most courageous act of all, the path of a true spiritual warrior.

Perhaps, collectively, we are going through a death in this country and in our world.  Perhaps we are in the throes of a transformation cycle that includes rebirth, and birth, delving deeply into some issues we kept hidden from ourselves for a long time.

We are daring to glimpse the underbelly of our own collective consciousness.  Let’s call it the monster, the shadow-self we locked in the dungeon for centuries.  Well, the monster has escape, y’all, and is running the streets claiming only he is in charge!

What are we going to do?  Are we going to act as victimized children, or are we going to face the monster head on and admonish him, and then forgive him, for his deplorable acts that we help him create!?

Our world is quite messy and painful now.  But, perhaps it’s necessary.  Maybe, we are learning to be braver, stronger, more resilient, less judgmental, and to roll up our sleeves and get to the challenging work of loving one another and caring for our world.

Let us continue to ponder, sojourners, the paradox of being unattached to circumstances and connected deeply and faithfully to Love!

Written with Compassion, Tonya


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