1 (a): actually having the reputed or apparent qualities or character; (b): actually produced by or proceeding from the alleged source or author; (c): sincerely and honestly felt or experienced; (d): actual, true
2: free from hypocrisy or pretense: sincere
Genuine (adj.): 1590s, “natural, not acquired,” from Latin genuinus “native, natural, innate,” from root of gignere “beget” (related to: genus), perhaps influenced in form by contrasting adulterinus “spurious.” [Alternative etymology is from Latin genu “knee,” from a supposed ancient custom of a father acknowledging paternity of a newborn by placing it on his knee.] Meaning “really proceeding from its reputed source” is from 1660s.
“The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.”
William Morris (1834-1896, English textile designer, poet, novelist, translator, and social activist)
“All emotion is involuntary when genuine.”
Mark Twain (1835-1910, Samuel Langhorne Clemens, author and humorist)
“Charm is often despised but I can never see why. No one has it who isn't capable of genuinely liking others, at least at the actual moment of meeting and speaking. Charm is always genuine; it may be superficial but it isn't false.”
P.D. James (1920-2014, English mystery writer best known for her series of novels featuring fictional detective Adam Dagliesh of Scotland Yard and also “Children of Men” and “Death Comes to Pemberley.”)
“There is perhaps no greater reward than one obtained through sincere service.”
Joseph Rain (writer, speaker, researcher, entrepreneur; best known for writing “The Unfinished Book About Who We Are”)
“I was tired of pretending that I was someone else just to get along with people, just for the sake of having friendships.”
Kurt Cobain (1967-1994, gifted and troubled rock legend and lead singer of the band, Nirvana)
“But, you know, I feel more fellowship with the defeated than with saints. Heroism and sanctity don't really appeal to me, I imagine. What interests me is being a man.”
Albert Camus (1913-1960, French-Algerian philosopher, novelist, journalist and Nobel laureate)
“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
bell hooks (acclaimed intellectual, feminist theorist, cultural critic, artist and writer; authored over three dozen books that span several genres)
“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
– bell hooks
Genuine love is what most of us desire, loving relationships that are sincere, honest, and true, but ones that cover and protect us when life and this world challenges us.
Our world has been modeling some great partnerships, of late. Whether we believe in the policy of our current President Barack Obama, most of us can say very little about his partnership with Michelle Obama. There’s so much to be admired, especially about Michelle herself. She’s a fierce spiritual warrior for her husband and her family, and without her Mr. Obama would surely not been able to withstand all the criticism he has endured in the last eight years.
A great spouse or partner covers and shields their beloveds, spiritually, emotionally, and sometimes physically, especially when one or both partners are focused on their life purposes.
But, for those of us who are single, spiritual covering also comes from our circle of love ones, those who are dearest to us. They are the ones who provide the most solace and comfort when we are in doubt or tied up in our own circular thoughts.
Investments in genuine loving relationships, whether in our families, friends, or communities take work, and is not always neat and conflict-free. There are times when we must confront those people we love with firm interventions about our sincere concerns.
When we are blessed to have genuine connections we are never alone, life is thrilling, unexpected, and miraculous. Even the relationships themselves and how we link to our soul mates are surprise gifts within themselves.
Let us always be genuine citizens of the world, sojourners!
Faithfully Yours, Tonya