: to put into charge or trust : entrust
: to carry into action deliberately
: to obligate or pledge oneself
Commit (v.): late 14th century, “to give in charge, entrust,” from Latin committere “to unite, connect, combine; to bring together,” from com– “together” + mittere “to put, send” (related to mission). Evolution into modern range of meanings is not entirely clear. Sense of “perpetrating” was ancient in Latin; in English from mid-15c. The intransitive use (in place of commit oneself) first recorded 1982, probably influenced by existentialism use (1948) of commitment to translate Sartre’s engagement “emotional and moral engagement.”
“Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose - and commit myself to - what is best for me.”
Paulo Coelho (b. 1947, Brazilian lyricist and novelist; best known for writing The Alchemist, which has been translated into 80 languages)
“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”
Peter F. Drucker (1909-2005, Austrian-born American management consultant, professor, writer, and self-described “social ecologist,” who contributed to the philosophical and practical foundations of the modern business corporation.)
“The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it is not without doubt, but in spite of doubt.”
Rollo May (1909-1994, American existential psychologist and author of the influential book, Love and Will)
“We have to recognize that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.”
Cornel West (b. 1953, prominent and provocative democratic intellectual, professor of Philosophy and Christian Practice at Union Theological Seminary, and author of more than 20 books, best known for writing Race Matters and Democracy Matters)
“If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession but participation.”
Madeleine L’Engle (1918-2007, American young-adult’s fiction author and poet, best known for Meet the Austins and A Wrinkle in Time)
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.”
Timothy Keller (b. 1950, author and founding pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in NYC, started in 1989; best known for writing The Reason for God and The Prodigal God, which sold over 1 million copies and have been translated into 15 languages)
“All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm's way.”
bell hooks (b. Gloria Jean Watkins in 1963, cultural critic, feminist theorist, writer, and author of over 30 published books and numerous scholarly articles)
“Marriage is those two thousand indistinguishable conversations, chatted over two thousand indistuinguishable breakfasts, where intimacy turns like a slow wheel. How do you measure the worth of becoming that familiar to somebody—so utterly well known and so thoroughly ever-present that you become an almost invisible necessity, like air?”
Elizabeth Gilbert (b. 1969, author, essayist, short story writer, biographer, novelist, and memoirist)
“Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose – and commit myself to – what is best for me.”
— Paulo Coelho
Commitment is the fuel we need to soar and ascend towards our destinies. Without commitment we are grounded, stuck and simultaneously floundering about, sometimes inadvertently allowing others to exploit and take advantage of our gifts and talents.
However, if we choose a side and commit to our purpose, speaking our truth and living in the light, we will eventually find our unique passions and joys.
Commitment can be scary, though. No doubt about it. Because unexpected lightning strikes will push us to pay close attention to the addictions that are not needed and to the attributes that encompass our true natures.
The paths to authenticity are countercultural and can feel arduous and lonesome. It asks us to step away from our tribes and encourages us to explore undiscovered alternative routes.
Commitment will also asks us to deprogram and reeducate, and prod us to place ourselves in new, uncomfortable, alienating circumstances.
But, if we can endure the discomforts and work through our illusions of fear, then we will not only create beauty, prosperity, miracles and blessings in our lives, but we will also find our true cosmic soul mates across this globe.
Commitment is an essential tool for our toolbox towards facilitating freedom and true independence.
Soldier on with great valor, my friends, soldier on!
Much Love, Tonya