: to adjust or mark (something, such as a measuring device) so that it can be used in an accurate and exact way
: to measure (something) in an exact and precise way
Calibrate (v.) 1839, verb formed from caliber + -ate
Caliber (n.): 1560s, “degree of merit or importance,” a figurative use from Middle French caliber (late 15th century), apparently ultimately from Arabic qalib “a mold for casting.” Arabic also used the word in the sense “mold for casting bullets,” which is the oldest literal meaning in English. Meaning “inside diameter of a gun barrel” is attested from 1580s.
“Perhaps the depth of love can be calibrated by the number of different selves that are actively involved in a given relationship.”
Carl Sagan (1934-1996, astronomer, cosmologist, astrophysicist, astrobiologist, author, science popularize and communicator, who played a leading role in the American space program since its inception)
“The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn't live boldly enough, that they didn't invest enough heart, didn't love enough. Nothing else really counts at all.”
Ted Hughes (1930-1998, one of the giants of 20th century British poetry)
“I am no technophobe. I like being able to calibrate communication, depending on the situation – texting for the simple and immediate; email for business or w hen I want to put some lag time into the exchange; Twitter to promote something; Facebook to draw a crowd.”
David Horsey (b. 1951, two-time Pulitzer Prize-winning editorial cartoonist, columnist, and political commentator for the Los Angeles Times)
“Success is about honor, feeling morally calibrated, absence of shame, not what some newspaper defines from an external metric.”
Nassim Nicholas Taleb (b. 1960, essayist)
“The coolly calibrated manipulation of the credulous American public, by an administration bent upon stoking paranoid patriotism!”
Joyce Carol Oates (b. 1938, writer, who published over 40 novels)
“The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn’t live boldly enough, that they didn’t invest enough heart, didn’t love enough. Nothing else really counts at all.” — Ted Hughes
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to love as as we did when we were children, freely and with total abandonment? We could be fearless with little concern of being hurt, gleefully willing to put our hands out on and to be drawn into the flame every time.
To invest one’s heart fully can be challenging. But, it’s really not about being loved back. It’s about the gift of loving itself, the ability to exercise our capacities. Everyone may not be versed in love, but there are pockets of civilizations that are fully verse in unconditional and unity love. And if there are a few, then we are all susceptible to catching the love virus.
True love can return a plethora of gifts to the world. However, heart-centered love must be calibrated with wisdom, compassion, and healthy boundaries.
Sojourners, let us continue to dig down and love ourselves, each other, the world, and the deeper mystery of Life itself.
Faithfully Yours, Tonya