1: to take exclusive possession of: to annex
2: to set apart for or assign to a particular purpose or use
3: to take or make use of without authority or right
Appropriate (adj.): “specially suitable, proper,” early 15th century, from Latin appropriatus, past participle of appropriare.
Appropriate (v.): early 15th century, “take possession of,” from Late Latin appropriatus, “to make one’s own,” from Latin ad- “to” + propriare “take as one’s own,” from proprius “one’s own” (related to: proper).
“What is the appropriate behavior for a man or a woman in the midst of this world, where each person is clinging to his piece of debris? What’s the proper salutation between people as they pass each other in this flood?
Buddha (567 BC – 484 BC, Siddhartha Gautama, an important sage and avatar on whose teachings of Buddhism was founded)
"Because of the diverse conditions of humans, it happens that some acts are virtuous to some people, as appropriate and suitable to them, while the same acts are immoral for others, as inappropriate to them.”
Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274, Italian Dominican theologian, philosopher, priest, and saint, one of the most influential medieval thinkers of Scholasticism and the father of the Thomistic school of theology)
“Whatever it is that I feel, I express it! I am free with my joy, my laughter, my pleasure, my pain, and I am blessed in that way as an actress that I can access those feelings within myself and not be ashamed to show whatever that is that’s appropriate for the character.”
Kimberly Elise (b. 1967, film and television actress, four-time NAACP Award and Chicago Film Critics Award recipient)
“So many tangles in life are ultimately hopeless that we have no appropriate word other than laughter.”
Gordon W. Allport (1897-1967, American psychologist and educator, who developed an original theory of personality)
“He will therefore have to use what knowledge he can achieve, not to shape the results as the craftsman shapes his handiwork, but rather to cultivate a growth by providing the appropriate environment, in the manner in which the gardener does this for his plants.”
Friedrich August von Hayek (1899-1992, an economist who conducted important work on business cycles, but later developed boarder social analyses and the recipient of The Sveriges Riksbank Prize in Economic Sciences in Memory of Alfred Nobel 1974)
“Isn’t it amazing the way the future succeeds in creating an appropriate past?
John Leonard (1939-2008, an American literary, television, film, and cultural critic)
“Form and function are a unity, two sides of one coin. In order to enhance function, appropriate form must exist or be created.”
Ida Pauline Rolf (1896-1979, a doctor of philosophy in biochemisty, who explored alternative healing and created a technique of the Structural Integration or “Rolfing.”)
“Whatever it is that I feel, I express it! I am free with my joy, my laughter, my pleasure, my pain, and I am blessed in that way as an actress that I can access those feelings within myself and not be ashamed to show whatever that is that’s appropriate for the character.” — Kimberly Elise
It is appropriate to express, or at least acknowledge, all that we feel. Once we do, we can step back, assess, and then take appropriate action, unabashedly. Deception, especially self-deception, can numb us and create addictions and anxiety. And swallowing our feelings can lead to anger, sadness, depression and health issues.
I was born a very sensitive child and cried a lot, and was often told that I was too sensitive. My challenge in being so empathic has been in balancing what I feel from those around around me.
It’s sometimes challenging to share what others suffer through, especially when living in a metropolis like New York City, where I was bombarded by throes of anxious and hurried people. But, what an amazing training ground NYC was for me, at so many levels! That environment gave me ample opportunities to learn from mistakes and to hone my gifts in demonstrating to others that they were not alone in their suffering.
I am still looking for appropriate ways to build healthy boundaries, and to discover proper channels to facilitate deeper healing. Mainly, I desire to help restore justice, build compassion for others, and to teach by example.
Please understand that authenticity, originality and truth are not easy roads to travel. These are countercultural and paradoxical concepts. But, as my father always said, if it was easy everyone would be doing it.
Continue to love and live masterfully, sojourners!
Faithfully Yours, Tonya