1 (a): to give up to the control or influence to another person or agent; (b): to give up with the intent of never again claiming a right or interest in
2: to withdrawn from often in the face of danger or encroachment
3: to withdraw protection, support, or help from
4: to give (oneself) over unrestrainedly
5: (a): to cease from maintaining, practicing, or using; (b): to cease intending or attempting to perform
Abandon (v.): late 14th century, “to give up, surrender (oneself or something), give over utterly; to yield (oneself) utterly (to religion, fornication, etc.)” from Old French abandoner (12c.), from adverbial phrase á bandon “at will, at discretion,” from á “at, to” + bandon “power, jurisdiction,” from Latin bannum, “proclamation,” from a Frankish word related to ban.
Etymologically, the word carries a sense of “put someone under someone else’s control.” Meaning “ to give up absolutely” is from the late 14th century.
“Go oft to the house of thy friend, for weeds choke the unused path.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882, American Transcendentalist poet, philosopher, journalist, and essayist during 19th century; one of his best known essays: “Self-Reliance”)
“Not belonging is a terrible feeling. It feels awkward and it hurts, as if you were wearing someone else's shoes.”
Phoebe Stone (b. 1947, author and illustrator of children’s books)
“Perhaps family itself, like beauty, is temporary, and no discredit need attach to impermanence.”
Gregory Maguire (b. 1954, author of books for children and adults)
“God draws near to the brokenhearted. He leans toward those who are suffering. He knows what it feels like to be wounded and abandoned.”
John D. Richardson (Pastor and author, his first book Giving Away the Collection Plate explored the work of missional discipleship.)
“A generous heart is always open, always ready to receive our going and coming. In the midst of such love we need never fear abandonment. This is the most precious gift true love offers - the experience of knowing we always belong.”
bell hooks (b. 1952 as Gloria Jean Watkins, better known for her pen name bell hooks; author, feminist, and social activist)
“I bought this place for a pittance, because it was a dump. Rejected, abandoned, unwanted. Like me. I fixed it up. Made it mine.”
Jasinda Wilder (author and Michigan native; writing such novels as Alpha, Stripped, Wounded and Falling Into You)
“Certainly, the terror of a deserted house swells in geometrical rather than arithmetical progression as houses multiply to form a city of stark desolation. The sight of such endless avenues of fishy-eyed vacancy and death, and the thought of such linked infinities of black, brooding compartments given over to cob-webs and memories and the conqueror worm, start up vestigial fears and aversions that not even the stoutest philosophy can disperse.”
H.P. Lovecraft (1890-1937, American author who achieved posthumous fame through his influential work of horror fiction)
“A generous heart is always open, always ready to receive our going and coming. In the midst of such love we need never fear abandonment. This is the most precious gift true love offers – the experience of knowing we always belong.”
— bell hooks
When doing our deep drilling, inner, and transformational spiritual work, we can feel alone, a bit abandoned, and cut off from all.
We are not alone. We are never far away from Love, for Love stands beside and supports us.
Our hectic lives, however, may inadvertently disconnect us from our loving and nourishing flow of energy resources, especially when we worry and stress over circumstances we cannot control. During these illusional times of fear we inadvertently clog up the infinite stream of creativity. We also psychically fence ourselves off , preventing others from offering their help.
When we are centered, balanced, and grounded in our present moments, we allow Life to return to its natural states of generosity and abundance. Time and space bend, and Love aligns and conspires for our benefit and needs.
By doing our work and practicing our spiritual mantras, exercises, and disciplines we can swim back to the shores of homeostasis and live in the comfort of our own homes.
We can also trust that Love never abandons us, know that we should never abandon ourselves.
Love expands and fortifies us. Life teaches us to evolve our gifts, to share what we have learned, and to challenge what we think we may know.
Keep keeping on, my friends, and be at peace.